behind closed doors

      Your good words can make the people around you stronger and braver and more alive. The most important place to practice is behind closed doors.

“Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.” Oliver Wendell Holmes

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue. . . .” Proverbs 18:21