You don’t really love somebody as long as you’re collecting hurtful things that she has said or done. The healthiest and hardest remedy is to throw them all away every day instead.
“Love . . . keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. . . . The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.” C. S. Lewis